Category: Religious

Why did Ram Leave Sita…

Ramayan has always been a very integral part of a Hindu life. It is a never ending most intriguing story of Ram & Sita, story of their love, their separation, their devotion to each other and story of THE GREATEST SACRIFICE.

Let me make myself clear at this point, just because I am using the word ‘story’ that doesn’t make it a folklore. It is as true as you and i am, as true as our emotions, as true as Death.

We have been reading and listening to ramayan since we were kids. However when we read ramayan there is one thing which at the moment we don’t realize but afterword’s it draws some negative emotions like sadness, anger, some even find it detestable.

It is the major cause of criticism of Ram, The Maryada purushottam. What is that thing which makes us question him?

It is the transition of a man from being called कृतवैवाहिककौतुक राम् (who became happy after marrying sita) to सीतवेदितकाकावन राम् (who became upset because sita cried) and finally विपिनत्याजितजनकज राम् (who had to abandon sita into forest).

There are many interpretations of Ram & Sita’s life, but important thing to notice here is that in every single one of them, Ram leaves sita. Not only that, in lanka after winning the war, he asks her to prove that she is pure, Sita does that successfully but despite of the fact that she has proven herself once in lanka, Ram leaves her when similar suspicion is raised in ayodhya. This time though he doesn’t even give her a chance to defend herself. Doesn’t sounds like Ram Rajya, does it? But wait before you form an opinion..

It is kind of hard to understand why Ram (who is ready to fight anyone just to marry Sita, who can go to any length just to find her trace, who is ready to fight a mighty king who not only has world’s largest army but also has Shiva’s blessing) will leave sita just because some unknown uneducated guy raised a suspicion about her character.

To find the answer we have to go deeper into the matter, require more reading, a better understanding and to say the least, we have to widen our gauge.

Here I have to tell you that there are many forms of ramayan, ranging from valmiki ramayan, vasistha ramayan, agastya ramayan, anand ramayan, ramcharitmanas, etc., there actually is a different version of ramayan in every region of India. Most version of ramayan which I named and which I didn’t are traditionally attributed to valmiki, in fact all of them except one and that is adhyatma ramayan, which is extracted from brahmaand puran ascribed to ved vyas, it is this adhyatma ramayan (not valmiki ramayan as many think) which is the inspiration of tulsidas’s ramcharitmanas.

Now let me take the liberty to draw your attention to the end of the war.  Ram offcourse emerges victorious and then asks vibhishan and hanuman to bring sita. They comply and sita is brought there on a chariot guarded by vibhishans guards. At this very moment something happens which although looks innocuous but is very significant for us in context of this topic.

Ram asks, nearly reprimands, vibhishan to withdraw his guard’s and demands that sita should walk to him. Sita as always complies with her husband’s wish. This gives everyone a chance to look at Sita closely which results in some low character people making some shallow comments on Sita’s character. Ram witnessing all this, immediately (and I emphasize on that word) asks Sita to prove herself. Sita in return without wasting a single second asks laxman to prepare a pyre and when he does, she jumps into it without any hesitation. Maybe she realizes what we don’t, why Ram asked her to walk to her? In the meantime everyone is dumbstruck, not a single sound, every eye wet, every heart pounding, tears flowing down the cheeks, now even those who questioned her integrity are repenting and crying. Then comes out Agni devta himself carrying Sita along and presents her to Ram. Everyone’s emotions are running high; they know what they have witnessed. By this time they know Sita is pure, even purer than fire itself. Ram has achieved his motive.

If you think that the motive of Ram was to prove to himself that Sita was pure then you are absolutely wrong. His motive was to prove to everyone what he already knew, it was to make people realize that a woman who stayed in other man’s custody for around a year is still as pure as ganga, it showed everyone that Sita’s  devotion to her husband is something which even  a powerful king like Ravan could not challenge. Ram on the risk of being brought down from his high podium, makes sure that no one ever raises a suspicion on his wife. This is the sacrifice I talked about when I started. Risking his own respect in society to restore his wife’s honour.

Following this event, they went back to ayodhya and lived happily. What followed was the famous Ram Rajya. Then a dhobi raised some suspicion on Sita and Ram sends her to valmiki’s ashram. He didn’t leave her alone in any forest as contrary to common belief, he asked laxman to take her to valmiki’s ashram and laxman does exactly the same, except however laxman drops her on the gates of ashram rather than taking her inside, may be because he was too terrified to face his guru while indulging in such an act (which according to him was unjustified).

This sudden change of heart on Ram’s part can be understood if you read another source of ramayan, other than valmiki’s. Valmiki somehow misses this point, maybe he was too naive and thought “who will ever dare to question someone like Ram”, by this time we all know how wrong he was. Anyway, so the only ramayan you get which is not derived from valmiki’s ramayan is adhyatma ramayan (I have written few lines about it when I mention it earlier in the post). When you read adhyatma ramayan things start to make more sense.

Here is what actually happens which leads up to sita’s Samadhi in earth.

After few years of ruling ayodhya, one by one Ram’s elders start to leave this world; kaushalya was first to go then kaikeyi, followed by sumitra. Now Ram realises that probably someday he has to go as well but how can that happen, Sita will never let that happen. Sita’s devotion for Ram is something which can neither be explained nor be understood. There are no words good enough to describe that. So  Ram thinks of something.

One day other gods went to Sita and said to her;

“Our lord is still on this earth just because of you, Mother”


“Mother, if you will be gracious enough to come to heaven then our lord will also follow you and will be seated at his most deserved place”

Sita tells this to her Lord (who already knew about it). He tells her that he will leave her to valmiki’s ashram where she will give birth to two boys and then he will visit her after which she will leave this world. At that  very moment Ram told Sita “I will follow you soon”.

Please don’t be fooled by my incompetence in translating the ramayan or by my over simplification of things, this all was very difficult for Ram, more difficult for him than Sita. I say so because despite of the fact that it was all pre planned, Ram’s love for Sita was above all other things. How difficult all this would have been for a man who loved his wife so much that he lived like a sadhu after her demise, we can’t even imagine.

When you consider all these things and look at them objectively then maybe you can connect the dots and see the clear picture.

God who came on earth in form of Ram, who is supposed to be the source of inspiration for every human being doesn’t even think twice before putting himself under the the sword of criticism, just for the love of his wife, for her Honour. In the end by putting a blemish on his persona of MARYADA PURUSHOTTAM, Ram raises Sita above all suspicions…

The greatest love

The greatest sacrifice




This is my first blog,i hope first of many to come ,i don’t think that everyone shares the same excitement as i do but still, just like our beloved ‘prime minister’ i will carry on without taking into consideration what others think.

Its kind off strange, when i decided to write a blog, first thing that came to my mind was RAM. May be because of all the recent occurring as you might think, but more appropriate reason will be because being a hindu, Ram (or god in any form) comes to me first. But there was a tussle as well whether should i write about ram or ram mandir, should i write about ram’s persona or his ‘janambhoomi’ ? People seem to be more obsessed with later but i prefer former, so may be i’ll give you a mix.

Ram born to dasharath and kaushalya in ayodhya, their eldest son, is considered 7th avatar of vishnu. Besides Ram, he’s also referred to as kosaladheesh, kaushlesh, Maryada-purushottam  meaning ‘Man of highest Virtue’ or ‘God of Virtue’, etc. His Biography has been written down by many great people like Valimiki (in sanskrit) ,tulsidas (in hindi dialect), guru gobind singh (named ramavtara),etc. They are all very much different from each other,understandably having different  views but one thing  remains common in all form of ramayans written all over,  that is Ram is considered  Maryada Purushottam by all.

What is it that makes him the most written about god in recent history of this religion? Is it this name of his ‘RAM’ or is it his life or just because he was an incarnation of vishnu?

Tulsidas writes pages full of how his name is so precise and appropriate. He says

” एकु छत्रु एकु मुकुटमनि सब बरननि पर जोऊ ।
तुलसी रघुबर नाम के बरन बिराजत दोउ ॥”

when ‘ra’ of ram is added to your name (in hindi offcourse) it stands like an umbrella saving you from all the miseries and when ‘ma’ of ram is added it looks like a jewel on your forehead making your soul even more beautiful. What a beautiful interpretation. And along with it, tulsidas emphasizes the importance of name (on the contrary to shakespeare who says whats in the name) by saying

” देखिअहिं रूप नाम आधीना ।  रूप ज्ञान नहीं नाम बिहीना ॥”

when we look at someone his name comes to our mind, when we think of him( his name) his image comes to our mind.

Ramcharitmanas is full of  praises for Ram, Valmiki ramayan not so, Valmiki even criticizes Ram at many instances but that’s a different issue. No where in any ramayan written by anyone is any emphasis of any kind on temple. Its understood for valmiki ramayan as at that time temples where not of that much importance but why nothing in ramcharitmanas or ramavtara, etc. SOME will say how can Ram himself ask to build his temples,but many gods of other religions do ask their followers to build places of worship than why not ram?  Maryada purushottam perhaps but tulsidas (Born 1532AD) also says nothing about it. He on the contrary says

“जाकी रही भावना जैसी प्रभु मूरत देखि तिन तैसी ॥”

God appeared to everyone in different forms, depending on their faith.

Then why today we are so obsessed with a temple? Ayodhya has 11000, yes eleven thousand temples but  zero at the place it matters, Ram janambhoomi. Ram in itself would neither feel happy or ‘dejected’ if temple there is build or not, but his followers will be.

So in quest of that ‘one’ temple, we unintentionally made ram a small word preceding bigger words like MANDIR and JANAMBHOOMI.

Yes, what happens at that 67 acres land in ayodhya will have a long lasting and bigger impact on this nations future (little on this religion), but is that THE MOST important thing, is it worth being so fanatic and in the process becoming just like those whom we are fighting against. A temple at what cost? Cost of even a single life is too much to afford but we in the process have given many. We might get our temple in the end but will we get those lives back?

No doubt that huge and majestic temple will boost our ego but will that temple solve the basic problems of hinduism due to which hundreds of lower caste hindu’s change their religion, will it make hindu’s understand that caste is not by birth but is from action’s as maharishi Manu said originally or will that temple make hindu’s understand their religion? which at present they don’t, even the flag bearers of temple movement are not that aware of what hinduism actually is.

Having said all that, please don’t think that i don’t want that temple, i want it as much as you do, even more than politician’s do. Ram himself when offered lanka by vibhishan after killing ravan says

“जननी जन्मभूमिश्च स्वर्गादपि गरीयसी॥”

Mother and motherland are better than heaven. He emphasizes on the importance of motherland (Janambhoomi) and i being his humble follower cannot reject the importance of janambhoomi or janamsthan. All i am trying to convey is that temple is good but who is inside is more important. Ram mandir at his birth place is great but RAM in our heart and in our action’s is superb.

The only good thing about that mandir movement of early 90’s was that it united hindu’s like never before. Hindu’s for once thaught, worked, moved and lived as one, the otherwise unbreakable boundaries of caste were broken, we were all brothers  up for one cause. Lets work towards recreating that unity and brotherhood, i am sure thats the only way to connect with our beloved Ram.

Atlast, phew finally, i will end this by quoting sumitra, when lakshman was to leave with Ram and Sita on vanvaas he came to see sumitra to take her blessings. Sumitra says

“रामं दशरथं विद्धि मां विद्धि जनकात्मजाम्।
अयोध्यामटवीं विद्धि गच्छ तात यथासुखम्॥”

Regard Ram as your father, Sita as your mother, this world as ayodhya and you will always be happy .

Jai shri ram